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Tipping for Beginners

 

Even though tipping is thought to be optional, in today’s society it is expected.  Because of the contrast of ideal and reality, we are often, rightfully, confused.   And, if we short-tip, we are viewed harshly. 

To help with that confusion, what follows are a few scenarios with solutions.

Going Out to Dinner with Short-Tippers

So, what should we do when you’re out to dinner with your future in-laws and they leave an embarrassingly small tip on the table?   It would be ill-mannered to correct them; but if there is an inconspicuous way to leave some money on the table as all are leaving, do it.  Still, waitstaff expects some to be socially clueless.  Consequently, and unfortunately, they are prepared for the short-tipper. 

How About That Generous Bartender?

How much we should be tipping a bartender who has discounted our drinks all night?  Usually, we tip a bartender similarly to waitstaff: approx. 20%.  If in a group with all satisfied with the service, the tip should be increased.

Often though, it may be best to tip per drink, especially if seated at the bar and paying per drink with no tab.  This tip is usually $1 to $2 depending on the price of the drink and complexity.  However, $1 per drink is acceptable. 

Tipping per drink also ensures that your bartender gets the tip and not the next bartender on shift change. 

Tipping Staff at Resorts?

This should be simple but of course, it isn’t.  I’ll try to smooth over the complications. 

Tipping is roughly the same for beach servers, valets, pool attendants, bellboys, and housekeepers: $2-$5 per action. 

For example, tip $2 when the valet returns our car to us.  Beach servers typically work as waiters, except our tip is typically $2-$3 a sandwich or drink.  Tip bellboys $2 to $5 per bag depending on the size of the bag and the type of hotel.  Upscale? Tip more.  In most hotels, tip housekeepers $1 to $2 per person per day.  Tips increase for luxury hotels up to $5 per person, although many don't tip at all.    

Pool attendants are tricky.  Some are part of the hotel and are paid to set up the area.  If they do something specific, like putting up an umbrella or getting sunblock for a person, then tip $2-$5 depending on task is typical. Some are employees of another business and contracted to do the job. 

Most often, there is a booth for items guests may rent.  Usually, there is no tip expected or required.  It is best to request information about the pool, recreational activities, and fees when booking the room.  Some of these are covered by the hotel’s “resort fees” that are tacked onto the room rate.

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