Party Hosting Reluctance: Why and How to Overcome it?

Dear Rebecca,

What do you think keeps most people from having a party? How do reluctant hosts overcome this?

Lots of Questions

Dear Lots of Questions,

Parties are a lot of work! The host must create a list of guests who complement each other, plan, prepare a delicious menu, mingle, and clean up. Why would anyone want to work that hard? I believe the only reason anyone might want to host a party is to enjoy the company of others or to honor someone specific.

Some reluctant hosts are uncomfortable with others coming into their homes and causing a mess. If this is the issue, these people should probably skip hosting parties. Most likely, guests would feel the host’s uncomfortableness.

For the timid host-to-be who simply cannot boil an egg… go for it. Enjoying a special evening with a group of friends is, well, there is nothing like it. One way to help with this anxiety is to buy prepared food and invite a small group for the first gathering. The small gathering will help build confidence and experience.

Most sincerely,

The Polite One

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