Get Your Best Flirting Foot Forward with These Tips!
As an etiquette teacher, I teach a variety of subjects, such as dating etiquette. So inevitably, when presenting any type of workshop, dating etiquette questions often arise. Often these questions lean toward the flirting aspect of dating.
Note: Please use these tips once it is safe to flirt, date, and get close to that one who’s making your heart flutter.
Surprisingly,
these are valid questions and a perfect topic for those dabbling in the dating
world. After all, flirting is fun, playful
and if done correctly, can add even more excitement in a chance encounter. "Interested?" she asks as she winks
and flips her hair.
Flirting
begins in the head.
Many
times, we flirt with those we want to know better, so accept that this may not
be a love
connection. No worries though. You won't know until you make that
connection. Flirting helps make that
initial first step, so have fun with it.
Additionally, focus on your emotions as you flirt. Relay these emotions and thoughts as you
flirt.
It's
all in the eyes...and
smile!
There
is an old saying that the eyes are the window to the soul. It is difficult to know for sure. Yet, I am sure that eye contact can be an
immensely powerful flirting tool. Imagine this.
You look around a crowd-filled room to find a person who links eye
contact for a lingering, breath-taking moment.
This person smiles and looks away – just for a moment – and then catches
your eyes again. Sexy.
Since
women tend to use these two tools best, listen up ladies. As you approach your love interest, make eye
contact and smile. After passing him, or her, look back over
your shoulder, make eye contact again, for just a second, and then continuing
walking. Still, the old-fashion wink may
help sell the message. You just may have
left him/her breathless, but ready to give chase.
More
specifically, eyebrows work too!
Consider
how "Star Trek's" Mr. Spock uses his eyebrows. Without saying a word,
we know what he is thinking. Now it isn't necessary to don his pointy ears but borrowing
his expressive eyebrow action is a great flirting tool. If sitting with your person of interest, use
your eyebrows to help express your feelings.
Lift one slightly as you look into his or her eyes.
Pucker
up!
Do
not miss the I-need-to-kiss-those-lips signals. Most commonly, this is when his or her gaze
keeps drifting down to the lips during a conversation. Additionally, women can easily send this
signal by slowly licking her lips and applying lipstick as he speaks. Beware though; this technique has been known
to cause confusion in men.
Flip
your hair.
Flipping hair is a classic flirting maneuver
equally effective for both genders. Slowly
pushing hair out of his face – while maintaining eye contact – is a perfect
technique for a man. Nevertheless, a
woman can do just about anything with hers and turn heads.
Touch
just right.
A
casual touch gets attention quickly.
First, lean in... slightly. This
body language yells, "I'm interested!" If the other person stays put
and/or smiles, that is your signal to continue. If not, back off and move on.
Next,
touch his/her hand. Very intimate. Likewise, lightly and playfully bump knees or
elbows. Ladies, touch his knee or slide
your hand up and down his upper back briefly.
Finally, when it is time to say goodnight, linger over a closer-than-usual
hug.
Caveat: use
only if the person is clearly interested.
Don’t invade an unwilling person’s personal space.
Flirting
Notes:
- Exude confidence
- Listen
- Make good eye contact
- Use positive body language
- Touch carefully
- Flip hair and lick lips
Enjoy!
Video credit: Weekend Update: Romantic Comedy Expert - Saturday Night Live on YouTube
Please Read
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